tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post7760718459221135211..comments2023-10-11T03:56:23.665-04:00Comments on Artful Aspirations by Debbie Bailey: When He Just Doesn't Get Medebbie baileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02479699000203333679noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-84798218353272644562013-05-07T09:51:28.864-04:002013-05-07T09:51:28.864-04:00I place much too high expectations on my son; not ...I place much too high expectations on my son; not in the way I would expect a marriage to be, of course, but my husband seems to love me unconditionally whereas my son is always off with his friends. The point is, I constantly have to battle my expectations with reality, and ultimately (as you so clearly pointed out) it's God I need to please first, put first, and then the men in my family. Great post!Bellezza https://www.blogger.com/profile/18073864187188953633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-31181398696219911932013-04-30T23:43:17.172-04:002013-04-30T23:43:17.172-04:00Judy, that's a very valid point. We need wome...Judy, that's a very valid point. We need women in our lives of all ages to help each other out. That way we won't put pressure on our men to be all things to us.<br /><br />Maybe wanting to be understood is a selfish goal? It sure would be nice, though!debbie baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479699000203333679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-30539280732671457652013-04-30T23:40:30.915-04:002013-04-30T23:40:30.915-04:00Leslie, I think it'd make a good book club rea...Leslie, I think it'd make a good book club read or all ages. MK, you might be right about homosexual relationships. Makes sense to me. debbie baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479699000203333679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-272087986484656412013-04-30T20:50:51.185-04:002013-04-30T20:50:51.185-04:00My first thoughts are that a husband and wife are ...My first thoughts are that a husband and wife are to complement each other in the roles God has assigned them...the "getting" thing is going down a craggy road and being stuck in a hard place of self-expectations spelling hurt and/or disaster to any marriage.<br /> <br /><br /><br /> Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09710910366858293660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-64687656655617520502013-04-26T09:40:49.728-04:002013-04-26T09:40:49.728-04:00My problem is sort of the opposite--for a long tim...My problem is sort of the opposite--for a long time I didn't "get" my husband, at least parts of him. I think I expected him to be just like me in his attitudes and responses, and when he wasn't, I was like, "What's wrong with him?" Now, after years of talking with friends, I've accepted that there are ways in which men are women are profoundly different. You'd think that would be obvious, but I was raised in the 1970s, when the attitude was that we're all alike. We're not.<br /><br />xofrancesLeft-Handed Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15014518128739580267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-38420789660349564922013-04-24T09:33:56.213-04:002013-04-24T09:33:56.213-04:00I think this is true especially in the age of the ...I think this is true especially in the age of the extended family being spread apart geographically. In generations past, women didn't expect their husbands to understand everything about women and their feelings and expectations. They had mothers, grandmothers, sisters, nearby to talk to, work with, discuss their woes, etc. Men are not wired like women, praise God. We need to enjoy the differences and not expect them to be our sounding boards in all things. When we want praise for painting the trim or spending all day cleaning the house, call our moms - or sisters. I'm not saying that we shouldn't communicate with our husbands, but that we just shouldn't expect them to be all things to us. Cranberry Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10758563068581561194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-10377910427461733932013-04-24T08:21:26.829-04:002013-04-24T08:21:26.829-04:00I love what Leslie says. Nobody gets me. That...I love what Leslie says. Nobody gets me. That's so TRUE!<br />Pom Pomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01524994024698986829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-85310668578157226262013-04-23T22:32:32.232-04:002013-04-23T22:32:32.232-04:00No one really gets me, though one thing about havi...No one really gets me, though one thing about having kids is that those that are like me get me better. Would this book make a good homeschool book club read? Does it make you feel guilty about past mothering? I'm looking for something all age/stage of homeschool mommies might like.Leslie https://www.blogger.com/profile/11216448707277968516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1368793710186704163.post-27614520551131280032013-04-23T11:03:34.884-04:002013-04-23T11:03:34.884-04:00I saw this book advertised this morning on a homes...I saw this book advertised this morning on a homeschool website. Sounds like she has some insight! I'm glad that I have a husband who, to some extent, does "get" me, and seems to work mentally every day to understand what makes me tick. I don't know exactly why he does this, but he does (with mixed success). Still, men and women are not designed to "get" each other much -- that's part of the intricate dance of heterosexual relationships. Sometimes I wonder if that's one reason homosexual relationships exist -- because there are some people who simply can't bear to have a partner who doesn't understand every tiny working of their inner self, so they pick someone of their own gender. The sheer difficulty of a male/female relationship is too much work for them. I don't know. It is exhausting, yes. Your last point about how you've "hardened" yourself to needing or responding to his praise -- that's very deep, very interesting stuff. We are complex beings, aren't we? Each of us so different. Thanks for this post.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.com